spell to attract love
Grow your hair as long as you like it. Color it. Go natural and then color it again. Be bold enough to experiment. Toss any clothes you don’t delight in wearing or pack them away to revisit next year. Find what makes you feel the most you.
Love what you do. When you get bored dig deeper, find ways to express your gifts in your work. If that isn’t possible, be brave enough to risk losing everything. Bet on yourself and keep doubling down through the hard times till you make it. Experience the flow of being in your expertise, relish in it. Seek the state where you are no longer you, just a vessel for the knowledge you possess. Let your work challenge you and take deep pride in making it through.
Face your demons. Enter each wound, each sticking point where you are your least lovable self with compassion. You were afraid, you were hurt, you behaved badly, and you are sorry. That wasn’t truly you, but the deep cry for healing. Beyond the behavior is a scared child deeply in need of your care and protection. Go inside and feel the thing you are scared to feel. Hold yourself in a fierce embrace and watch you soften, watch the patterns melt away.
Travel. Ask yourself where you feel called to go and go alone, even when the excuses of why you can’t outnumber the simple instruction of “find a way.” Meet new people and accept their positive reflections of you. Spend time alone and learn to enjoy your company. Take a risk, be brave, then dance barefoot on the space you acquired in the expansion. Hold the view from the top of the mountain or the soft sound of the waves at night in your heart. You made that happen. You.
Your friends are the art that you hang on the walls of self love. Listen to whom your heart feels called and follow. Let them see your dark side. Let their acceptance of you in spite of it teach you how to accept yourself. Seek your boundaries and learn to express them, clumsily at first. Your true friends will say thank you while others may walk away. Friendship is a beast as evolving as you are. Endings aren’t failures, just chapters. Have faith.
If you follow your path, your interests, new friends will always come and the old may return if you hold them with an open palm. The process of gripping makes endings gruesome. Love is not a pitcher being poured and rationed, but an infinite waterfall. Let your first and strongest allegiance be always to yourself.
Build a home. Build your dream home. Take pride in every detail. Pour your energy into creating the nest in which your soul feels replenished. Let it look like your spirit spilled out wall to wall. Eat food that makes you happy, that makes your body shine. Light candles just for you. Draw the bath you would for a lover then luxuriate in it. You deserve it. You don’t need to wait.
Don’t wait for your soulmate to be known. Share your truth with the world. That one safe person who needs to hear you, love you, believe you is you. Speak from the depths of your being, speak the fear you have been hiding. Take the reasons you believe you are unlovable and separate from them as you put them in words. Others have had the same nightmares and they have woken. Speak yourself awake from the dream.
This is the spell you cast to bring love into your life. Live it. Make choices that make your heart pound with fear. Be alone. Be quiet and find a voice that is “you” then follow it, champion it, settle for nothing less. Be brave enough to ask for what you want and let that courage make acquisition or rejection irrelevant. Be dedicated to staying true to the process unfolding inside of you. If you do all this, the love that comes along is a bonus to the grand, exquisite and eternal love affair within yourself.