essays

 
Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

to be happy

Happiness didn’t arrive with fanfare. There was no marching band or finish line whose ribbon I’d triumphantly break through.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

what’s wrong with me

I couldn’t hide it because what was ‘wrong’ was who I was.

I finally have a real answer.

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Emotions Allegra Kaough Emotions Allegra Kaough

how to feel a feeling

Since I realized that feeling my feelings, whatever they are, is so important to my mental and social health, I built a few tools to whip out when feelings come up.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

on the death of my dog, Harley

Someday when it doesn’t hurt so much, I know that when I open my heart to be in love you’ll be waiting, tail wagging, to meet me there.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

qué triste

What can we do in the face of life happening? Especially the hard parts, the cruel bits.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

when I wish upon a swan - 1993

He then gently climbed back down the tree without taking his eyes off of the bald eagle who had been a squirrel-monkey who had been a cheetah who had been a girl who had been a swan.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

orgasmic existentialism

This recording is the most humiliatingly vulnerable piece of art I could hope to recreate. I love it and I hate it. I’m fascinated and embarrassed by it.

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Emotions Allegra Kaough Emotions Allegra Kaough

under the mess

It’s all just too much. It honestly is. We try to pretend it isn’t, but that’s a silly lie. It’s absolutely too much, yet somehow we are still all doing it.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

just to be where you are

Throughout my life I was frustrated by how irritable and off I consistently felt. I was working hard to be the person I wanted to be and it never quite worked.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

as good as it gets

It was my 3rd day in Mexico City and I’m not entirely sold. There is always an adjustment period that is hard to remember while it’s being lived.

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

healing with Ram Dass

Ram Dass came into my life last August on a solo road trip in New Mexico in a series of small steps as I followed a thread of curiosity

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Allegra Kaough Allegra Kaough

my last grandparent

My grandfather died at 97 in his apartment in New York City on Thursday morning.

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